The Coloured MapMats
Since the coloured MapMats are the foundation of this Game it may be useful for you to understand a bit more about their background.
We created the name MapMats since these small mats (or pads) are used to map a situation out.
The use of the coloured MapMats is based upon the theory of the morphogenetic fields (made known by Rupert Sheldrake), that we are bound in and by the universal law of interconnectedness.
The MapMats help us to see clearly how we are positioned within a situation or problem.
The most important field we are in is our family field/ system throughout many generations. A lot of knowledge about this subject was made public and developed further by Bert Hellinger.
It was in Bert Hellinger’s Systemic Therapy work that he discovered that the family system, just like any other system, has its own natural order. When that order is disrupted the effects are felt by subsequent generations as the system tries to right itself. There appear to be certain natural laws operating to maintain that order and permit the free flow of love between family members.
According to Bert Hellinger‘s Systemic Therapy, the solution to living happily within the family situation occurs when each of its members takes his/her appropriate position, accepts his/her role in life and takes care of him/herself, avoiding intervening in another’s destiny.
Most personal difficulties, as well as problems in relationships are the result of confusions in families‘ systems.
The confusion happens when family members are excluded, forgotten or not recognised in their right place. This also creates guilt. Later members of that family may try to live out the destiny of the excluded soul or create misfortune for themselves to diminish the old guilt and redeem what happened.
The disruption to the natural order of the system causes entanglements, resulting in children beginning to become like the parents, involving themselves in their parents’ business or trying to make them feel better by suffering themselves.
As they grow up, they often feel anger and may try to reject their families in an attempt to build a new, separate life. Sometimes they move to the other side of the world in order to disentangle themselves. However, this doesn’t work. When they remain tied to their families in this way, they are not free to go forward in their lives. While forming relationships with partners, they can never be fully available because they are still caught up with their parents.
These and other issues can be safely worked on and resolved with the Pangarden Game and its tools.
The need for balance
Family constellations and the underlying observations from which they take shape, taps into the deepest dynamics of our relationships. People begin to see exactly how hidden forces, including non-present family members and those of past generations, and the choices that were made long ago, affect the current partners’ connections with each other on many levels.
Typically, a constellation moves through two stages. In the first one, hidden yet compelling influences on the family are revealed. In the second stage healing movements and statements are discovered or recovered and tested within the constellation.
A relationship works when the balance of giving and taking is right between the partners. That means that each takes and each gives. The need for balance is a basic need. It is comparable to gravity, which has effects everywhere and keeps things in balance. This is what is needed in a healthy relationship.
A person who gives is in a superior position. Because of having given, the person feels the right to receive something in return., i.e. that a gift is due. The person who takes, feels a debt to the one who has given. The only way to feel free of the indebtedness is to give in return. This need for balance is the basis of every social relationship. It brings about an equal exchange between people who live together. Without the need, there would be no exchange.
In a couple relationship, the need for balance between giving and taking is tied to the love and the bond between two people. Because one loves, one gives, and because the other loves, he or she gives as well. In love however, one gives a bit more in return than what was received before.
The meaning of the colours:
There are many meanings and personal associations to colours, here we offer some suggestions:
White: Light, spirit, soul, God, Christ, Angels, purity, dream, hope, new vision
Yellow: Treasure, sun, talents, inheritance, intellect, ideas, inner peace, inner happiness, plans, future, wisdom, detachment
Orange: Joy, play, creativity, childlike, socializing, nourishment, food
Pink: Tenderness, love, forgiveness, service, safety, sweetness, harmlessness
Red: Energy, life-force, anger, rage, activity, sexuality, instincts, desire
Magenta: Change, letting go, equilibrium, happiness, new consciousness, release, rebirth
Violet: Transformation, respect, dignity, knowledge, worthiness, higher realms
Blue: Relaxation, oneness, openness, welcoming, calmness, healing
Green: Balance, neutral, regeneration, cleansing, the new, hope, growth, optimism, health
Brown: Earthiness, old values, past, foundations, work with hands, durability, commitment, ageing, maturity, common sense
Grey: The void, negation, ash, true service, work in offices, boredom, depression, destruction, internal suicide, denial
Black: Blockage, shadow, bad, evil, harshness, brutality, frustration, trauma, emptiness, mystery, creativity, attraction, potential
MapMat Set of the PANGARDEN Game:
72 pieces in Total; made up from 12 specially selected colours:
- 24 Circles; 2 of each colour; 99mm diameter
- 24 Squares; 2 of each colour; 99mm square
- 24 Triangles; 2 of each colour; 99mm base x 75mm high
made from 2 mm EVA rubber foam.
weight: 120g